To determine whether your relationship is abusive, answer the questions below. The more "yes" answers, the more likely it is that you are in an abusive relationship.

Do You:
  • • Feel afraid of your partner much of the time?
  • • Avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner?
  • • Feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?>
  • • Believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated?
  • • Wonder if you’re the one who is crazy?
  • • Feel emotionally numb or helpless?
Does Your Partner:
  • • Humiliate or yell at you?
  • • Criticize you and put you down?
  • • Treat you so badly that you’re embarrassed for your friends or family to see?
  • • Ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments?
  • • Blame you for their own abusive behavior?
  • • See you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
  • • Have a bad and unpredictable temper?
  • • Hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?
  • • Threaten to take your children away or harm them?
  • • Threaten to commit suicide if you leave?
  • • Force you to have sex?
  • • Destroy your belongings?
  • • Act excessively jealous and possessive?
  • • Control where you go or what you do?
  • • Keep you from seeing your friends or family?
  • • Limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?
  • • Constantly check up on you?

- What to do as a victim

Report it – violence is never justifiable, it is not a sign of love and you never deserve it! Contact the police, a shelter organization or a friend or family member.

- What to do as a perpetrator

If you are aware that you have an abnormal need of controlling your partner, or if you are violent in your relationship, seek professional help for your behavior and try to change it– violence is never justifiable, it is not a sign of love, and it is never deserved.

- How and Where to get help:

Domestic violence and human trafficking is a criminal offense punishable by law;
A victim of violence, as well as victim of human trafficking, may seek help through the unique SOS Telephone number: 0800 11112
The call is free of charge and when you call do not have to say your name or provide personal information.

If you are reporting violence to the police:

When you are physically attacked, the police are the first in the chain of help. You may call them on the number 112 /192 from a cellphone or 92 from a landline
  • • If you have sustained any physical injuries you should go to the hospital immediately and request them to give you a medical report on your injuries. You can go on your own, or you may ask the police to take you there.

If you are reporting violence in a police station:
  • • You will talk to the officer responsible for domestic violence. You need to tell this officer everything that happened to you.
  • • If you are too afraid to go back home, ask the police to place you in one of the safe houses.

Shelters for victims of domestic violence (safe houses):
  • • Requests to be placed in a safe house, with or without your children, may be made to the police officer and/or center for social work, or directly to the non-governmental organizations that have such safe houses.
  • • Once in the shelter, victims receive necessary medical, social/legal, psychological and other aid.
List of safe houses:

Gjakova: linjajuaj@hotmail.com 0390330098
Pristina: cpwcprishtina@yahoo.com (both women and children)
Prizren: qsgf_pz@hotmail.com
Gjilan: Liriagjilan10@hotmail.com 24 hour helpline 0280325700
Peja: pejawwc@yahoo.com 039421398
Mitrovica: cpwcmitrovica@yahoo.com (both women and children)

In Pristina there are also specific shelters for children (from 3-18 years of age) that operate by referral only. If you need to access their services, please contact the Kosovo Police.

List of safe houses houses for trafficking victims:

Pristina: Pvpt_ngo@hotmail.com

Name: PVPT Center
Scope of work: Providing of a rehabilitation and long-term socio-economic reintegration program for victims of trafficking and presumed victims of trafficking.
Reference: Through special units for the investigation of human trafficking of the Kosovo Police or social work centers.