DAY 13
DAY 12 // DECEMBER 6, 2012
The role of Education
DECEMBER 7, 2012
The role of Young Men
In the hallway of a public high school, a young man, urged on by his friends, gropes a classmate despite her repeated attempts to push him away. A silent majority of male and female students, uncomfortable but uncertain what to do, pretend not to notice. In schools all across the country, every day, young men and boys build relationships based on their notion of what it means to be a “real” man.

As in many other settings, patriarchal and rigid norms around gender and masculinities are still prevalent in the Western Balkans. These norms influence young men’s attitudes, behaviors, and relationships with other young men, young women, families, and larger communities. From an early age, many young men are taught that being a "real man" means being a provider for, and protector of, one’s family and community. Boys and young men are often raised to be aggressive and competitive, in preparation for these social roles. Many boys and young men are also often raised to be self-reliant, to not worry about their health and do not reach out for help when they may need it. Often, boys and young men who may act contrary to these social expectations – for example, who show interest in domestic tasks traditionally associated with women, such as cooking, cleaning, or caring for younger siblings, or who easily display their emotions - may be ridiculed by their families and peers as being "sissies", or not real men.

What can and should be done in breaking prejudice and stereotypes and ensure GBV prevention and protection?

More often we are seeing young men challenge their peers to take overt stands against violence, especially violence against women. The importance of the male voice in the violence prevention movement is essential, as we know that ending violence will only be achieved through the collective effort of both women and men. Young men have many things they can do to address violence against girls and women. In schools, cafes, and clubs, young men can take a stand amongst their peers and show that this type of behavior is wrong. When your friend is making harassing or sexist comments you can challenge them. If you see friends using violence, sometimes it’s easier to ignore or walk away. As a bystander who is a witness, you are giving your silent consent to that violence by not acting. If these people are friends, you can try and cool off the situation. If you are not sure for your own safety, you can get school teachers or call the police to intervene. We all have a role to play to promote healthy and positive relationships, where violence has no role.

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DAY 15 // DECEMBER 9, 2012
Role of Women Leaders
DAY 16 // DECEMBER 10, 2012
Media, Gender, and Violence